Thursday, October 10, 2013

Being a Columnist is my dream! How often in life do people get their dreams to come true? Wow, I'm excited to be a Columnist on

Wow, I am  excited to be a Columnist on

I love to write and I have sooo much experience with MS I believe I can share with people. Every time I go to the hospital I talk to the Dr.'s and the Nurse's and I teach them things they did not know about the disease.  I have two daughters, my youngest is 16, my oldest is 24 and went to Stanford University and I told her you were encouraging me to write a column Stan. My daughter was so happy, she said I am a great writer.

I have had several poems published and one is in

a book when it was I wrote and won a contest for poems for MS with Montel Williams long time ago.

I would be awake all night long so I would go to my computer and write about my pain, and make it not so hard to live with even when I felt like I was all curled up in pain. My writting made it better.  I know I could help, even give hope maybe bring some type of emotional healing to people with my writings I just never knew how or what avenue I needed to use or get access to to complete this task.

Being a Columnist is my dream, how often in life do people get their dreams to come true?

I'm also dreaming to take my 16 year old to Disneyland, she is Autistic since she was 5 years old she was diagnosed with Mental Health disorders and I have not only had my challenges but hers as well. My daughter has a sweet loving spirit, she is in Special Education and always has

been...she is not very social. I don't know if my illness has anything to do with it because I have always been sick and not able to take her out in the heat in the summer, and being pretty much in pain all the time I went from a Social Butterfly to a Homebody. My daughter is like a hermit don't like people interactions. She always talks about her dreams, someday.... maybe we will go to Disneyland.  I was 16 years old and I was involved in a car accident that left me in a coma for 3 weeks, I broke my nose, fractured my skull and had 3 blood clots in my brain. The Dr. told my parents if I lived I would be a vegetible but little did he know how much of a fighter I was!

 Four months later I went to State Nationals and placed first runner up in talent and second in beauty in the Royalty Miss Beauty Pageants in Sacramento, Ca.

Yes lots of physical and occupational therapy, dance practice! Before the accident I was a Semifinalist in the Teen Magazine Great Model Search, 1985. Later that year I was at a preliminary pageant for Ms. California and a man told me that I would have won the Teen Magazine Great Model Search contest, but because of the accident I was disqualified. What a book?????

I am just so glad to have lived through all those wonderful experiences and come out so well after the accident.  Life is a lesson, every thing is a lesson and a blessing just the way you look at it.

Thank you so much!

Blessings. Cheri Lee

It feels discriminating when people say...that because a person has a disability...they don’t have any abilities

We are never too old to stop learning, and with this being said I would like to give you much to think on and act on. When you go to the doctor how much thought goes in to what you are going to wear or how you are going to look? Do you apply your makeup same as always or do you wear large hoop earrings and tight jeans?

The more I think about it feels discriminating when people say or you know they think that because a person has a disability they don’t have any abilities.

The Disability is permanent and incurable but with many we take medication to monitor our pain and improve our quality of life. We have both good days and bad days and believe me on a good day when I have the ability I will get things done   while I feel good I want to look good doing it.

When I am having a good day I like do dress nice wear makeup and jewelry even if I am in pain or hurting like hell inside. The sad thing is that I believe 90% of people...even the educated are visual and judge mental.

They look at a person and judge by the outer appearance, clothing, makeup and medical professionals go much further than that. A medical professional especially one who is evaluating you or treating you will look at you and everything about you and evaluate it note it like a fine tooth comb. If you are going to a doctor for Migraine Headaches they will see if you have on a strong smelling perfume, as that can be a trigger. They will ask where is the pain located and what does it feel like, because each type of headache is different, and if your symptoms don’t match why would the doctor believe you or want to give you medication?

Because the doctors learn signs and symptoms and all about pain from a textbook, they don’t live it.

A person who lives with a chronic condition or suffers from pain on the other hand lives with the pain daily or every other day or may be hit with it unexpectedly at any moment without warning.

What I am saying is that doctors learn their job and by what they are taught in school or on the job experience even when they talk to each different patient. Based on everything that a doctor probably knows they think that if we have an illness we pretty much should look like it too. Now there are some days that I don’t feel well and my goodness I don’t look well either I won’t get caught outside the house. There are days so bad I can’t get out of bed and I am lucky to feed myself. It is not usually those days that you are at the doctor because I would not feel well enough to drive to the doctor’s office in that event. It is just my thought that you don’t go out of your way to get dolled up and look your best because remember we are all human and people are visual. Many people take what they see at face value, if you look good you feel good. If you look bad you must feel bad.

I can say there are days that I look good and I feel like I am dying inside but I want to live and I also don’t want my teenage daughter to see me looking awful all the time and worrying. Other times I feel terrible and the pain is so intense and it don’t matter if I put makeup on or not people can tell I don’t feel good.

It should not be held against us if we have a disability or a disorder and have a good day and want to dress up everyone wants to enjoy life and their looking the best they can without being miss-judged.

Friday, October 4, 2013

"When Someone has an Illness...the Need for Communication & Touch is Even More Important Mentally & Physically


Companionship fulfilling human wants and desires are not only a wonderful emotion we all desire to experience, it is something we need. Every man and woman has a basic need for love, to feel loved and accepted unconditionally. Let us go a step beyond this and explore feelings a little deeper, a little more personal, how about intimate.

Touch, the physical touch of another person especially the opposite sex can be very healing and therapeutic. What people don’t understand is that when someone has an illness  the need for communication and touch is even more important mentally, physically and physically.

People of all ages are starving for the physical healing I call touch; it can be as simple as holding someone’s hand or as far as giving as massage. I know when I don’t feel well it is very comforting when my daughter comes and lies down beside me.  There is something about the human touch that has a healing affect not only to the heart and the soul but it lessens the pain and gives hope and encouragement. It can be as simple as touching someone’s hand while you talk to...

Thursday, October 3, 2013